Sweet Bridge

Judy Wyman Kelly

 

Last week I witnessed a "sweet bridge" moment at The American Place (TAP).

 

A few weeks ago I started tutoring a Chinese woman who is temporarily living in Hartford with her adult son while he completes an internship. She is feeling very isolated as she knows no English and her son is gone all day at work. I speak Mandarin Chinese, which is why I was brought on board to meet with her weekly to provide a bit of English tutoring and also some companionship. Hartford does not have a very big Chinese community.

 

I was working at TAP when a Chinese woman walked in looking for some books in Chinese. She lives in Simsbury and although she does speak English well she also feels isolated and has had a hard time getting to know people. It is difficult to be a foreigner! On a whim, I called my student and asked if she wanted to meet someone from China. She came right over to TAP and the two of them hit it off.

 

Coincidentally, another Chinese patron arrived shortly after the two women sat down. Overhearing their animated conversation in Chinese, he went over and introduced himself. He also lives in Hartford, knows no English, and is feeling isolated.

 

When I left work at 2:30 the three of them, strangers to each other 90 minutes prior, were still engaged in animated conversation. As I said goodbye the woman from Simsbury said, "Today you were a sweet bridge. Thank you for introducing us all!"

Touring Hartford City Hall



Judy Wyman Kelly

Last Tuesday morning, a group of the library’s adult English language students went for a tour of the majestic Hartford City Hall, located just across the street.  The place is amazing!



Veteran Hartford resident and current town clerk, John Bazzano, was our guide. Constructed in 1914 on land donated by Hartford resident and financier, J.P. Morgan, this city jewel boasts exquisite turn-of-the-century architectural designs, including marble stairways, gilded décor, and vaulted glass ceilings.  The Christmas tree made from red poinsettias added some nice holiday cheer.

 

But more importantly, we had a chance to find out what City Hall does for Hartford residents, such as providing birth, marriage, and death certificates, property deeds, and voter registration cards.  City Hall is also home to the Mayor’s office and is the place where city laws are passed by the city council.  We had a chance to visit these rooms and even sit in the city council chairs!  Hartford residents are welcomed to go to the Mayor’s office with any questions or needs, and to attend city council meetings on the second and fourth Monday of each month at 7pm.

Digging to America

Jennifer Kriksciun

This was my first visit to Hartford Public Library’s Bridging Cultures book group. After reading this month’s selection, Anne Tyler’s novel Digging to America, there was much I wanted to express and much more I wanted to hear from others, so I was glad I had signed up.  Tyler’s novel tells the story of two couple’s experiences after having met unexpectedly at a Baltimore airport.  Both couples were awaiting the arrival of baby girls from Korea and though one might think their subsequent journeys would proceed as similarly as their meetings had begun, the reality couldn’t be further from the truth.

I must disclose- I’m also an adopted child, not from Korea but from Taiwan, having emigrated from there in the early 1970s at only a month old. I feel a particular kinship with little Jin-Ho and Susan.  I could relate to the feelings of cultural sensitivity expressed by the overly exuberant Donaldson family for my American parents also wanted me to feel connected with my Taiwanese roots. But I was reminded of how my parents were really quite unfazed by cultural assimilation and instead, encouraged me to embrace my identity- that of an American.   

The Hartford History room on the third floor of Hartford Public Library quickly filled with over 20 book group participants.  As the newbie in the group, I quickly took a seat while others mingled familiarly with one another. Janet Bauer took the role of group facilitator and asked us to express our initial thoughts on the book and I quickly spoke up.  I could not hide my perspective, how reading the book had jarred memories similar to those of the two little girls. 

Tyler’s focuses on the Iranian-American grandmother Maryam and her relationship with Dave, a fellow widower. Many in the group felt strongly about Maryam’s development. Some felt a sense of connection but understood her character’s irony- that she is unable to let go of her past and move forward. It was the sense of “outsiderness” that everyone seemed to relate to- and how that feeling of isolation inhibits so much.  For Maryam, it prevents her from accepting Dave’s affections. I read, hoping at each turn of the page, that as flawed as they both are, that they both find some sense of happiness. I won’t spoil the end, but I can tell you- it’s worth the wait. Indeed, “it’s a lot of work, being foreign.”

I look forward to next month's selection.